Tuesday, September 13, 2005

Learning to Say ‘No” to your wife illogical Demand!!

Learning to Say ‘No” to your wife illogical Demand!!

Parliament has just passed the Domestic Violence Bill. But the social conditioning and attitudes are different to alter, finds out an Exclusive SIF (Save Indian Family Yahoo Group) survey.

Sushmita and Amit (Names Changed) appeared to be the Ideal Couple. There were “ no issues “ in their relationship , except Amit’s occasional complaint about Sushmita use of abusive language against his parents and sister and some time she will take some money from his money parts without his knowledge . He used to get hurt , but Amit would dismiss it as a once –in –blue-moon behaviors till one day Sushmita kicked his 65 years old mother , when she came to their house for a evening for few hours . Amit was shocked!!!!

Silence and Suffering!!!

“There’s nothing surprising about these behaviors” says a renewed psychiatrist. “This is how things begin “She explains. “Initially he (Amit) doesn’t mind the swearing because he didn’t realize that this was just another form of abuse – She explains. “After all most of us do curse from time to time “She adds.

Then again boy’s who have grown up seeing their families and under stand that a daughter –in –law having a Whole Sale free license to abuse their Mother-in-law and Sister –in –law, as our Government thinks that all our mother and sister are criminal, for them women means only daughter in law, so only 498A, anti dowry law are there, where without any investigation all your relatives will put behind the bar irrespective of the complain is false or true. But in case of Dishonest Daughter-in-law, there is no provision by which you can give a small warning to them.

As a result all husbands believe to continue the relationship despite the violence and abuse, tend to school themselves into thinking that it is accepted behaviors. Indeed for most of the boys in India, abuse is accepted as part and parcel of a relationship – pre or post –marital.

Level of abuse:-

An online yahoo group Survey done at SIF (Save Indian Family) , throw up some interesting results . According to member, 98 % of husband suffers verbal, mental and economical abuse from their wife and in-laws. Only 10 % categorized insulting language by wife as abuse .Then again 90% husband said they were willing to forgive their partners.

Say Supreme Court Lawyer, Mr. Mahesh Tiwari, “Our society is biased . We make our boys more docile and therefore, more prone to verbal and mental as well as Economical abuse. But a girl is never fed on such views. It is because of this attitude that a wife can not take “NO” for an answer, this is where problem begins “

Why take it??

Compulsions – economic, social and emotional. A 38 Years old husband and a victim of abuse by wife confess that he is ready to forgive his partner because he “loves her too much “. A large no of husbands accept that they will continue to a relationship with their abusive partner and will sacrifice their age old parents and sister.

Indian Old Parents and Pregnant Sisters in JAIL?

The question now, in the proposed domestic Violence Bill the word “Verbal “Mental and Economic abuse , really justify and gives the right picture that only women suffers the same , husband never suffer the same ??

Mr. Praveen says , this DV Act will lead India to massive Single parenting System , a lot of Un wanted child will be in our society the way in Us 75 % Child born with out a wed lock , In Ireland only less than 2 % people get married relationship .

Another Step to Kill the Institution of Indian Marriage System - Part -2

On that country, women used to beg to men for a live together, forget a marriage, used to beg for a part time father!!!!

Our government is really concern for our honest women??

When they will understand that killing of Institution of marriage is called a “Legal Terrorism “..

Already Supreme Court of India described regarding the misuse of 498A. This Domestic Violence Bill will totally kill the Institution of Marriage system in India which a lot of outsider country want.

Let wait and watch, when our Government will wake up and do some real women well fare instead of playing this Men vs. Women game.

With Regards
Swarup Sarkar

Disclimer :This is totally writer personnel Views only. You may have different opinion. The name and place changed to protect the Persons Identity.


At 3:07 AM, Anonymous George Rolph said...

Change is coming for men!

Neither the organs of state, the hate of feminists or the purveyors of disgusting anti male propaganda such as the BBC and others, will be able to stop it. Men are flexing their muscles and the press is beginning to pick up on it like never before.

While Fathers4Justice led a great campaign and raised the profile of men's issues, it would be a huge mistake to think that equal parenting is enough. It is NOT enough! We have to (and will) force a debate on the condition of ALL men's rights and the family and drive back the feminist hatred of everything heterosexual. Our aims and goals cannot be single issue aims and goals. To allow that, would be to turn our backs on men and boys who have already suffered appalling, and often fatal, injustices. We must also be careful of taking our eye off the ball when it comes to getting the truth out there about the myth of the "oppressive patriarchy." It is a myth because under the lies and distortions of feminism, such a patriarchy has never existed. It is a false construct and it MUST be exposed as such if we are to prevent our children being further brainwashed with false guilt.

It is vital that we cease to be a society led by the nose by minorities given far too much power over the majority. Minorities that are using our laws, our courts and gullible judges, politicians, journalists, social workers, teachers, broadcasters and others to promote bigotry and hatred against heterosexual men and their families. Theirs is the politics of hate and revenge. Terrorists using false figures, self authored non scientific reports, lies, distortions and naked hate to destroy those they think are collectively responsible for the "oppression" they went through.

Were I a black man I would recoil at the idea that I need to hate and destroy the little old lady down the road just because she is white. As a white man I DO recoil at the idea that I must hate all women (and journalists) because SOME feminists decided they wanted to destroy my family; hate my son; stop men from having anything that resembles justice in courts; feel at liberty to make all kinds of false allegations in order to keep him from his home, kids and cash and, with luck, get him jailed too! However, I DO sympathise with those who say that when you ACTIVELY set out to destroy the lives of others you must also pay a price. Therefore, I feel that unlike the slavers who escaped justice for their sick crimes, the modern purveyors of hate must pay for theirs! Too many men have died to let things slide under the carpet. My idea of truth and reconciliation for those who have done these things to men and boys for forty years is this: We tell the truth about you and then we become reconciled to seeing you pay for it!

Single issues concerning the things men have gone through at the hands of these savages are simply not enough. The fight is NOT over until the rights of men are re-established and that means ALL the rights of men destroyed in the last forty years, including the right not to suffer prejudice, ridicule and discrimination at the hands of lawmakers, judges, journalists and broadcasters.

I know that Matt O Conner of Fathers4Justice feels that such people should be left with an escape route through, "a back door" but I thoroughly disagree. (He also thinks the feminist construct of the patriarchy is accurate!). Unless they are made to walk in shame for the terror they have inflicted, there is no incentive to stop them trying again in 20 years. They are vermin and they MUST be made to feel like vermin as a strong warning not to come back again.

We must also be careful NOT to be led into the future by those groups that have become charities in the UK. Charities, often end up becoming destructive organs of the state, just as the NSPCC and many others have. Once you have defined your group as a legal charity you are very restricted in what you can do or say politically. Over step the mark and your charitable status can quickly be withdrawn. You are also wide open to take overs by anyone with enough clout and influence to steer you in the direction the government want you to go. We have seen this happen to so many charitable groups such as Greenpeace, Amnesty International and aforementioned NSPCC. What hostile political forces cannot defeat they will often infiltrate, take over and lead astray. We are already seeing feminists disguised as men's group activists leading "men's groups" and appearing on men's forums all over the Internet. Their aim is to destabilise our various groups and to ridicule and undermine the influence of those who may lead the men's movement forward.

We are growing stronger almost by the hour. The confidence of the men's movement is mushrooming despite the best efforts of our enemies to silence us. Feminists sense this change and are growing ever more shrill and extreme in their denunciations of us. This is a sign of fear and should be welcomed by all men and women fighting for the rights of their fathers, sons and brothers. Let them scream.... the balance of power is shifting and they know it!

George Rolph.


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